Got Conflict in Your Job? Here’s What to Do.
I have realized that truth regarding right living in my place of occupation. Many of you know that I’m the director of Child Evangelism Fellowship in Houston, TX. I work with a great group of people in our office and in the field–currently 9 people with 4 more raising funds to come on board soon. With a growing number of people comes an increasing set of issues to deal with. After all, we are all people. And every person has issues.
You’ve got issues. And I’ve got issues. And, sometimes, when our issues collide, there’s conflict.
I like what Ken Sande once said at a conference I attended several years ago, “Where two or three are gathered together, there will be conflict.”
Our field office is not full of conflict, but the potential is certainly there. After 2 1/2 years as director, I’ve realized that I need to establish certain expectations for our team. I am currently working on a set of core values for us to officially adopt and live by.
What will most likely be the #1 core value is Live Graciously.
Some have mistakenly believed that grace gives permission to live how we want. Actually, grace gives us the freedom to choose to do right. And right living produces right benefits!
One way to realize this is to understand what God’s love looks like. There are 4 attributes of this love found in 1 John 4:9-10. See if you can find those 4 attributes:
9 This is how God showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him.10 This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins. (NIV)
Did you see them? They are…
- all giving. God showed his love. He gave it freely. He held nothing back in loving us.
- sacrificial. God sent His Son.
- toward people who don’t deserve it. God sent His Son into the world.
- proactive and aggressive. He didn’t wait for me to love Him. He loved us first.
Then comes the next verse:
11 Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another.
In other words, God expects us to love one another in the same way He shows His love to us. It’s His grace to us. Living Graciously is loving one another this way. This kind of living enables success in the work place.
- Living Graciously frees others to be themselves.
- Living Graciously encourages creativity, spontaneity, and the entrepreneurial spirit.
- Living Graciously sacrifices self for the benefit of others.
- Living Graciously seeks to build the whole team, instead of building ones self.
- Living Graciously doesn’t kill the joyous atmosphere, but it actually creates it, promotes it, and maintains it.
Yup. I believe this will be 1st on my list of core values for CEF Houston. Oh, and John (the author of 1 John) said that the opposite of this love-in-action is called hate.
- Hate tries to force others to be something they’re not.
- Hate stifles creativity and limits the freedom to explore improvements.
- Hate seeks the benefit of self above others.
- Hate is more interested in ones self than the team’s success.
- Hate kills joy and seeks to prevent it from rising up.
One of these produces great success because it glorifies God.
The other fails.
But love never fails. In fact, when we aim at loving one another this way, the people of the world turn their heads in wonder.
Question: How do you see the people in your workplace act among each other? Leave a comment below.